Boots of a thousand miles

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I have walked hundreds…

If not thousands of miles…

Looking…

Found in a New York snow…

These boots kept my feet safe,

And have been with me for four years now.

They represent my journey…

Through a wilderness,

across borders…

From coast to coast

And here they are still with me

Dirty…beaten up…

Dilapidated…

Worn out…worn in

Transformed by the weather…

the emotion with which I stomped in them…

I have danced…karaoked…jumped…ran for beer

And still even with their unraveling laces…

I keep them near.

I have very few things I cherish…

A few things that represent me…

But these boots represent me…

And my journey of what I have yet to see.

-Benj

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(photo by http://www.courtneyjade.com in 2009)

Remants of Tranformity

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Remnants of the former me…

try to blockade from the reality,

of what is today.

Old habits.

Old behaviors..

trace amounts of inadequacy.

For what?

For me?

To hold on to what used to be…

If that was me…

Or maybe just what I used to numb…

Distract…

Detract…

Escape…

Interfere…

Out of fear…

of what?

Who…why…where…how?

I am supposed to resurrect

A refined quality…

Without superiority…

Inferiority…

Insecurity…

Absurdity…

Well maybe a bit oddly…

To be the blossom of the transformative seedling…

Pod…

That once used to be…

And in this journey the acceptance

Of obscurity is in truth all me,

An artist

A thinker

A creative

An adventurer

A quality of narcissism quantified by insecurity.

-Benj

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Colon-ary rules

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I used to write a lot without a second thought….

…. then I realized my rules for grammar….

were less than thought…

but rules are just parameters…

and parameters are just barometersthat are either learned or taught….

so take your guidelines…

your semi colons…

my grammatical errors….

and shove them up Webster’s ass…

that’s my grammatically…

phonetically…

kinetically….

repetitive cross to bare.

-Benj

Sex drive

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I used to be a slut

With a high sex drive…

But once I got wheels…my drive…

Fueled the gas of my wheels

and took to the open road.

Feeling horny?

Let me give you a honk…

If you’re in my way…

…because that’s the only way I will come…

…until I find another love one day.

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E-roaded

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I get on the road and I get carried away…

Carried away to where?

Where my heart is…wherever I follow it and there it shall be….

One month.

A west coast journey…

Feeling free…from the dumb of not being free…

To freely access adventure…

Find enchantment…

Exploring…

Without knowing…

Being open…to the fear of growing.

Its easy to stay…to succumb…to routine…

Its change by feeding…

Exploring…

Unearthing experiences…I will not stop… til I one day…

Become one with the sea.

I get on the road and I get carried away…

Carried away to where?

Where my heart is…wherever I follow it and there it shall be….

One month.

A west coast journey…

Feeling free…from the dumb of not being free…

To freely access adventure…

Find enchantment…

Exploring…

Without knowing…

Being open…to the fear of growing.

Its easy to stay…to succumb…to routine…

Its change by feeding…

Exploring…

Unearthing experiences…I will not stop… til I one day…

Become one with the sea

-Benj

Live you live

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I refuse to conform to societal norms…

What is normal anyways? Is normal settling into a high powered career? It could be…

…but its just not for me…

To be chained to a cubicle feels like an untimely early and slow death…

…we all have to find our own way…

….decide what our core values are…pursue them…

…some seek wealth…things…possessions…

I seek adventures…experiences….genuine authentic connection…

…so take your path and I’ll take mine….

…your imperfection is my perfection….and my imperfection is your perfection…but what it is perfect anyways….but a sordid standard that is unattainable…

…find your bliss….and save your judgements along the way for someone else…

who gives a fuck…because I have better fucks to give…and a beautiful life to live.

Sincerely,

Benj

Lessons…the life goal formerly known as resolutions.

Its January 1st, 2015. First day of the new year. Every year world wide we make resolutions to do something that we had not done before. To work harder. To lose weight. To be a different person than we were before.

What if instead of a resolution…we decided to take the lessons we have learned in the last year…and decide to let some go…and build upon others?

Every New Years Eve since I was old enough to go to a party, I have been going out…whether to a bar….or house party. This year I decided to take a night and start the year off clear…no booze…no late night (well I was up until 2am, watching a documentary on male strippers…but that’s another post)…but to wake up ready to really sit down with myself and figure out the lessons I want to learn this year…and how to build on what was learned in the past year.

So what did I learn? What about last year will influence and build this next year to be better?

-CREATING FEEDS THE SOUL…this can come from cooking, putting together an outfit, painting a picture, redoing old furniture, writing, making jewelry…etc.

-YOU ARE ONLY LIMITED BY THE LIMITATIONS YOU PUT ON YOURSELF…yes there are circumstances that make things you want to have, become and experience in life challenging…but if you take a step everyday towards that goal…it is attainable…it may take a little longer…and in todays day and age of instant gratification…patience is the key here.

-FEAR TRIES TO SABOTAGE BEFORE LIFT OFF…so often I would be scared of what would happen if something I did, created or wanted didn’t work out….the fear would paralyze and sabotage me to stop before I even started….but what is the last part of the word paralyze? LIES! Don’t buy into them. What if it does workout? What if I actually made something happen that I wanted? Why would that be so scary? All questions that have gone through my mind.

-IT’S OKAY TO BE VULNERABLE AND ASK FOR HELP…this is the biggest thing I have learned this year. I can’t do it all. Sometimes I have a rough day and need support from those in my life whom I love…and the more I shove, stuff and ignore my feelings the more I spiral…so pick up the phone…ASK…open up…this causes relationships to grow…blossom and flourish.

These are just a few of the many lessons I have learned over the course of the year…and yes its the beginning of the new year…but in reality its a new day…

SO what each day are you gonna do to achieve who and what you want to be? Do something today towards your goal…and carry the good lessons from the previous day with you.

Resolutions are just a set up to me for failure…so lets call them lessons and make a plan!

What are some lessons you learned in 2014? What do you want to carry with you and let go of?

Cheers

Benj